When you objectify her by making her your table, your footrest or some other piece of furniture, you’re sending the message that she’s your toy – to be played with however you see fit. Objectification is a way of saying “I love you, but you’ll always be my toy.” And there’s never anything wrong with… Read more

Have you ever noticed how – when your man slaps your face – every thought and emotion you had at the time suddenly becomes reset? A face slap grounds you.  It helps you to realize how emotional, hormonal, and irrational you were being just a second or two before. It helps you understand that you… Read more

Every man loves getting tools as a gift.  When our girl gives us a new jig saw or socket wrench, we practically lose our minds.  How thoughtful, we say. And despite the fact that Hollywood and the media will tell you that buying her a new set of pots and pans, or a new Dyson… Read more

Why are we, in the Traditional Gender Role community, so incredibly happy relative to people who believe in equality of the sexes? Matthew D. Hammond and Chris G. Sibley tried to answer this question in their 2011 study entitled Why are Benevolent Sexists Happier? available for free here. The study really doesn’t come to a logical conclusion… Read more

“Benevolent sexism is a form of paternalistic prejudice (treating a lower status group as a father might treat a child) directed toward women. Prejudice is often thought of as a dislike or antipathy toward a group. Benevolent sexism, however, is an affectionate but patronizing attitude that treats women as needing men’s help, protection, and provision… Read more

A slap on the behind, a gentle tug on the hair, a chin grab with a kiss – all of these things done in public don’t embarrass her as much as they remind her that, above all other things she may be, she is your possession – now and always. -VIS

Don’t touch her. She wants you to, but don’t. Tease her mind.  Play with her emotions.  Make her soul malleable and soft.  Twist her spirit into something pliable and tender. But don’t touch her.  Let it build. Dominate her with your words.  Conquer her with your intellect.  Tease her for hours with stories of how… Read more

Married women used to say this all the time.  Even married with three children, women used to politely decline food sometimes because they didn’t want to put on weight and become unappealing to their husbands. Watching your figure/weight is part of being a good wife and a good girl. -VIS

Remember they told you Santa Claus was real? They lied. Remember they told you you were equal to men? They lied. -VIS

Your scent is one of the most soothing things in her world. Whether she’s wearing your shirt, sleeping with her face in your crotch, or just burying her nose in your neck, you’ll discover she finds your scent calming and quietening. -VIS

As a man in a Traditional Gender Role relationship, you have an incredible amount of power over her – physically, mentally, and emotionally.  Use it to build up her self-esteem, not break it down. If you’re threatened by your girl having high self-esteem, it’s time to examine your own. -VIS

So your traditional girl is stressed to the max?  Her anxiety is climbing, she’s having a difficult time dealing with everything going on in her life, and it seems like she may fall apart at any moment. It’s your first instinct in such a situation to relax the rules and broaden her boundaries, but that… Read more

Your traditional girl, despite all her talents, is not a mind reader.  She really, really wants to be a good girl, but if you don’t tell her exactly what to do in order to hear those magic words, she feels lost. Give her clear, concise instructions on what you want done and exactly how you… Read more

For millennia, women had it made – staying in the safety of the home, having everything provided, focusing on things they love like cooking, baking, and sewing … ah, the good ol’ days. And then suddenly women think, “oh wow, we can do all the things men can do!” So despite the obvious flaws in that… Read more

When you’re at a party with your seated girl, come up behind her and gently squeeze the nape of her neck. She’ll smile knowing that you’re making a public declaration: “This one is mine.” -VIS