The “Face Slap Reset”

Have you ever noticed how – when your man slaps your face – every thought and emotion you had at the time suddenly becomes reset?

A face slap grounds you.  It helps you to realize how emotional, hormonal, and irrational you were being just a second or two before. It helps you understand that you were not thinking logically.

Best of all, it reminds you that he’s in control of everything – your world, your emotions, and your body.

When he slaps your face – and he will, eventually, if you allow yourself to become to over-emotional – remember to thank him for bringing you back down to earth.

A firm slap to your cheek is one of the greatest gifts he can give you when your world seems to be spiraling out of control.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – Life Is Chess

Is chess just a silly board game for old people?  Or can it teach you strategies for a successful life?

I often encourage young men to learn to play chess – and there are some very specific reasons for doing so.

While playing chess, you’re forced to think at least three moves ahead of your opponent.  Anticipating their next move, your countermove, then their countermove teaches the ability to expect the unexpected – and prepare for it.  That job you were counting on didn’t come through?  That’s okay.  You expected that move.  That’s why you’ve already got two or three others lined up.  Your paycheck fell short of expectations?  That’s okay.  You expected that move.  That’s why you’ve got two months’ salary in your savings account.

Chess also teaches a young man to be skeptical about assuming the intentions of others.  In chess, your opponent may take a pawn with another pawn just to distract you from their real target – your queen.  Your flirty crush ended up going on a date with your best friend?  That’s okay.  You saw her intended target weeks ago – that’s why you’ve been oversharing some of her major flaws with him.  Your boss moved you laterally within the company to a department he knew you didn’t like?  That’s okay.  You knew the intended target was to get you out the door.  That’s why you sent a resume to your company’s main competitor who is desperate for inside dirt on their rival.

Believe it or not, chess can help you better understand Traditional Gender Role relationships, too.  You see, in chess, the king can move in any direction – but only one square at a time.  The queen, however, can move in any direction, any distance she wants.  This teaches young men that – as the king in a Traditional Gender Role relationship – there is only so much he can do to influence others.  And when his options are limited, he’s confident that his queen has the charm, grace, and femininity to influence those he cannot.

When I was young, if I wanted to play a challenging game of chess, I was able to play against my father.  But if he didn’t want to play, I had to travel across town to the local chess club – if it was open – to play a decent game.  Now, young men can simply pull out their phones and play chess on thousands of different skill levels – from absolute novice to Grandmaster.

And while reading blogs about Traditional Gender Roles and life in general might provide young men with a few memorable quotes on how to handle situations that may arise in life, chess teaches strategies, tactics, alternate and critical thinking, anticipation of action, how to avoid red herrings, and so much more.

Blogs are fine.  But nothing will teach a young man more about the game of life than chess.  And after he’s been playing for several years, he will discover an incredible truth:

Life is chess.  And if he has mastered the chessboard, he will master life itself.


Life Is Chess.  The Gentleman’s Times, April 24, 2019.  Copyright © April 24, 2019 by Vintage In Stepford, All Rights Reserved.

Gentlemen, Carry A Knife

I’ve seen many young gentlemen being given a box, then pulling out a key to open it.

If you want to be seen as a gentleman, you need to carry a knife of some kind.  Pocket knives – such as Old Timer and Swiss Army – are the most unobtrusive but some men, such as myself, carry “multi-tools” capable of 20 or more functions (such as Leatherman or Gerber) – one of which is almost always a razor sharp blade.

Carrying a blade can be incredibly handy.  It’s not just an issue of opening letters and boxes.  If you’re witness to a car accident and the vehicle is engulfed in flames, you can rescue victims quickly by pulling out your knife and cutting the seat belts.  If an animal is tangled in something, your knife can save its life.

A gentleman cares about every life around him, and carrying a blade – whether an Old Timer pocket blade or more robust Leatherman Surge multi-tool – will allow you to protect those lives before First Responders can arrive.

And ladies, a knife is always appreciated by your man as a gift.  You can never go wrong by buying a man a blade for his birthday, anniversary, or Christmas.

A gentleman carries many things – honor, courage, wisdom – but one of the most practical things any gentleman carries is a good quality blade.

-VIS

“We see the good in men.”

This is Egard Watches.

At that small, niche watch company, sales have exploded.  They’re now back-logged by two weeks.  They’ve made so much money from this ad that they’re now donating excess profits to a foundation for veterans and will continue to donate to worthy male-centered causes for as long as they can.

If a company is going to get involved in social issues, let it be supportive.

This is how it’s done, Gillette.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – The Gillette Ad and the Attack on Traditional Masculinity

Here’s why Gillette is out of line.

Gillette recently released their newest ad campaign on “Toxic Masculinity,” inviting men to “be the best a man can get.”

Gillette has obviously bowed to the pressures of radical left wing feminism in their ad campaign, believing – for some reason – that men who use Gillette products are stupid enough to believe Feminist Theory.

The ad talks about bullying, sexual assault, and other things of which men are frequently (and often wrongly) accused.  But by adopting left wing attitudes toward masculinity, Gillette is essentially saying that all men are monsters and Traditional Masculinity is wrong.

But what Gillette doesn’t address is that men who sexually harass, or bully, or rape, or generally treat women like trash are a very, very small minority of the male population.  Generally speaking, men don’t act like that at all, so why is Gillette painting masculinity as some inherent evil?

Perhaps Gillette was listening to the American Psychological Association (APA)’s 2017 “Guidance Document” which states that the following characteristics need to be eliminated from all men:

  • Achievement
  • Risk
  • Adventure Focus
  • Eschewing Weakness
  • Aggression
  • Status
  • Competition
  • Stoicism

So, basically, the APA says that anything that is inherent in a man needs to be eliminated from men, kind of like how Joseph Mengele (who was also a doctor) wanted to breed out all the “bad” characteristics to achieve the perfect human.

Taking lessons from the Angel of Death, Gillette?  Very classy.

Now, before we try to cut the APA some slack for bowing to feminist pressure, let’s bear in mind that this is the organization who, as little as 32 years ago (1987), stated that being gay was a “serious mental disorder” that could be treated by pumping thousands of volts into your brain through electro-shock therapy.  So, you know, let’s take everything the APA says with a rather large grain of salt.

The problem is not too much masculinity in the world, it’s a lack of masculinity.  Men who rape or sexually assault or bully are not masculine at all.  That’s not what masculine men do.  Masculine men have self-control.  Masculine men feel the need to protect women, to provide for them, to defend their honor.  Masculine men defend women from weak-minded beta males who would rape, assault, and bully.

Gillette, like feminists, seems to have this all ass-backwards.  Women are greater bullies to other women.  Young girls are particularly vicious online.  Women are known to be gender traitors just to get a man to pay attention to them.

“Toxic Masculinity” is a problem, Gillette?  Perhaps.  But “toxic femininity” has an even greater problem.  Consider this:

  • 40% of reported domestic violence (reported – it’s believed to be much higher) is perpetrated by women. (Domestic Violence Statistics)
  • Women are much more likely to murder their own children. (JAAPL)
  • If you include “forced kissing” as sexual assault, women are responsible for 48% of all sexual assaults (TIME)

Women can be toxic, too, Gillette.  To say that men are the reason the world is going down the toilet is like trying to put out a forest fire with a boot.  If you really want to change the world, look at the root cause – Feminist Theory has concocted this story that men are the only ones who bully, who rape, who commit domestic violence, and who commit sexual assault.

Like most Feminist Theory, it’s a lie.  And I find it hard to believe that no one at Gillette fact-checked any of this.  No one looked up journal articles to refute the claims of the leftist board of directors.  No one held a focus group to ask if they know someone who bullies, harasses, or sexually assaults.  No, Gillette just went headlong into these waters with no compass, no map, and only the shining star of Feminist Theory to guide them.

Hate to tell you, Gillette, but that isn’t a guiding star.  It’s a meteorite plummeting to earth, kind of like your company’s business model.

And between you, me, and the lamppost, Gillette, this is the end of the relationship between you and many, many men.

In that spirit, I’ve sold my 1955 Gillette Super Speed Razor and dumped my Gillette 7 o’clock razor blades in the blue bin.  In their place, my Merkur 34C double edge safety razor and Derby Extra blades have been brought out of storage.  I’ll never buy another Gillette product again.

Shame on you, Gillette.

Shame.


The Gillette Ad and the Attack on Traditional Masculinity, The Gentleman’s Times.  Copyright © 2019 Vintage In Stepford, All Rights Reserved.

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-VIS