My new ebook is now available!

My new book, A Man Explained It To Me!: Everyday Topics Mansplained So Well That Even A Woman Can Understand Them by Mr. V. I. Stepford is now available on Amazon.  Below are links to various countries where you can purchase it:

USA

UK

Germany

France

Spain

Italy

The Netherlands

Japan

Brazil

Canada

Mexico

Australia

India

Price is $2.99 USD for Kindle edition.

-VIS

New Book To Be Released Soon!

Amazon is currently reviewing my new book,  A Man Explained It To Me!: Everyday Topics Mansplained So Well That Even A Woman Can Understand Them by Mr. V. I. Stepford, for publication.

I expect the book will be released by January 23, 2019, but I will certainly keep you all informed when the book goes live on Amazon.

It is only in Kindle format right now, but I should have the paperback version available within a week.

This will be the first in the Mansplaining Series by Mr. V. I. Stepford.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures

Think she’s complicated?  Think again.

Most men think that women are complex creatures.  They complain about women over-analyzing, running amok, and being too demanding.

But in fact, the opposite is true.  All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they form an acronym: Boundaries, Appreciation, and Routine – or BAR.

If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before you put her back in her place. Boundaries also include accountability for her actions.  These Boundaries give her a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.

Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut, to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is at its best. Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.

She requires Routine which includes consistency.  If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t have time to over-think.  If she doesn’t have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her life, and that’s liberating for her.

Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure these 3 things are still in place.  It’s not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s actually a compliment.  She treats these little tests like a “ping” signal.  She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again.  Don’t cower from the test, delight in it.  She’s pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”

All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains.  Give her that freedom.

Set the BAR for her.


Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures – The BAR System, The Gentleman’s Times, Copyright 2018-2019 Vintage In Stepford.  All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – A Brief History of the Term “Daddy.”

Think you’re modern, hip, and cool because you call him
Daddy?  Honey, you’re about a century too
late to the game.

It has become fashionable of late for a girl to call her
partner “Daddy.”  We see it popping up on
social media and every girl thinks she’s breaking new ground by using the
term.  But the first recorded use of the
term is from the 1920s when girls called their man “Big Daddy.”  In the 1930s and 40s, the term morphed into “Daddy-O.”  By the 1950s, the standard “Daddy” became
fashionable again.

Then there seemed to be a pause in the term as the feminist
movement took hold in the 1960s and 1970s.
But by the 1980s, the phrase “who’s your Daddy?” became popular and the
moniker was resurrected in romantic relationships.

The 1990s saw a period of use of the standard “Daddy” just
like in the 1950s, while the 2000s saw the creation of the term “Sugar Daddy”
to refer to a man who paid a girl’s expenses in return for companionship.

Since the beginning of the 21st century, “Daddy”
has been the simple, but widely used term for girls in relationships with a
power dynamic.

So if you think you’re being modern by calling him “Daddy,”
think again.  Girls have been using the
term for at least a hundred years that we know of, and very probably much
longer in unrecorded settings.

Who’s your Daddy?  He is.

And you love
it.


A Brief History of the Term “Daddy.”  Good Housekeeping (21st
Century Edition). November 25, 2018.
Copyright © 2018 Vintage in Stepford™.
All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – So You’re Inferior To Men. Now What?

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Discovering and accepting that you – as a woman – are inferior to men has its advantages.

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So, you’re a woman who’s discovering she’s inferior to
men.  What do you do next?

The most empowering thing you can do is own it.  

Being feminine, being inferior, and being a female come with
a huge number of privileges.  You’d get a
much lighter sentence if you were convicted of a crime.  You’re more likely to get out of speeding
tickets and traffic violations.  You’re
more likely to get assistance when you need it.

So what should you do?

Watch your diet.  I
don’t mean go on a fad diet (those are really harmful).  I mean make a lifelong commitment to eat
healthy foods every single time you eat.
Drink more water and less sugary drinks.

Exercise.  And no,
going to the store to buy potato chips is not exercise.  If you can’t afford a gym, there are things
around the house you can lift in repetitions to get fit.  You don’t even need to lift anything.  Basic exercises like crunches, push ups, running,
and even walking will help keep your body in shape.

Dress well.  You don’t
need to spend a fortune on nice looking clothes, just clothes that look nice on
you.  Wear dresses, not jeans.  Wear heels, no sneakers.

Act like a lady.  Don’t
cuss unnecessarily, don’t gossip, don’t make crude remarks about anyone or anything.  Silence is not only golden, but it adds a little
feminine mystique.

Be helpful.  Sure, you’re
inferior, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be helpful.  If a man needs something, fetch it for him.  If he doesn’t need anything right that moment,
just smile and be pretty.  That’s helpful
all by itself.

You’ll find that if you follow these guidelines, your female
privilege will soar and men will be falling over themselves to help you.

And when that happens, you’ll wonder why you ever thought being
inferior was such a bad thing.


You’re Inferior To Men.  Now What?, Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition), September 2017.  © Copyright 2017 Vintage In Stepford, All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – Intersectional Feminism Is Nothing More Than Pop Psychology

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Is intersectional feminism reality or just a form of pop psychology like “healing pyramids”?

When we think of
pop psychology (popular psychology), one thing comes to mind: gurus who claim
to know how the human mind works and – despite the fact that they have no
formal training in any psychology field – push their theories of how we behave and why.  These “internal conspiracy
theories” (and that’s precisely what they are, nothing more than conspiracy
theories) try to tell you that you feel something even though you know it’s not
true, but hey, you’re not a psychologist, so maybe they know your mind better
than you do.

Is it any wonder,
then, that intersectional feminism can be defined as little more than pop
psychology.  Take some of intersectional
feminism’s most widely tossed about buzzterms:

Internalized
Misogyny
” – an attempt to convince you that you hate yourself for doing something that makes you a good
girl.

Patriarchy” – an
attempt to make you believe in the conspiracy theory that men gather in dark
corners to keep women from succeeding in life.
Let’s face it, when men don’t want you to do something, we don’t whisper
about it, we tell it straight to your face.

Misogynist” – an
attempt to convince you that you hate women, when really you just don’t
understand why they seem to enjoy being such a pain in the ass.

<Insert Word> Privilege
– a logical fallacy known as onus probandi in which you can’t prove you don’t have it, but others can’t prove that you do.  “Privilege” is an attempt to make you feel bad about something you can’t change and probably wouldn’t want to even if you could.  

Trigger” – an
attempt to make you believe you’re a victim of a heinous crime when, in reality,
you just saw or heard something that made you cringe and think, “dude, no!

You’ve probably heard most of these terms knocked about in the public sphere, and when you do something you’re not proud of, you’ve thought, “you know,
maybe there is a little bit of
<insert buzzword> in me.

The truth is that
you’re not crazy and you’re not a hostile, hateful person.  You simply don’t conform to the world view of
intersectional feminist pop psychologists.  And when you
don’t conform to their world view, you’re immediately a misogynist, which isn’t
true, but hey, they wrote a 4 page essay on it once so it must be true.

There were pop-psychologists back in the 70s who used to talk about the
healing power of the pyramid to dampen the pain of living in this world.”  They tried to sell tent poles formed into the
shape of a pyramid “to harness the mystical power of the mind.”  Hell, my own sister once grabbed 4 pieces of dirty lumber from my dad’s garage, formed them into a poor approximation of a pyramid,
and sat within it.  10 minutes later, she
emerged from her clearly lopsided shanty to explain that she was now “an enlightened being.”  To be honest, I’m surprised she didn’t get a concussion from the thing falling down on her but, in her defense, she did manage to violate the laws of physics for ten minutes.

And where are those
pyramid-selling hippies now?  Either dead
or living hand to mouth on some kind of welfare system because their idea was
about as plausible as intersectional feminism.

The only one that
can confirm that you’re a hateful soul is you and a court of law.  The only one that knows what’s in your heart
is you.  Not some 21 year old pop
psychologist who wrote a couple of essays for a Mickey Mouse course and can’t get your
name right when you order from them at Starbucks.

No thanks.  Keep your pyramid and I’ll bring my coffee
from home.


Intersectional Feminism Is Nothing More Than Pop Psychology, Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition), Copyright © August 2018, Vintage In Stepford™, All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – Objectification Of Women Is Natural

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Some women say, “objectification of women is wrong.”  Wrong?  Wrong in what way?  Let’s take a look at how everyone and everything – including women themselves – objectify women:

The top women’s magazines – Harper’s Bazaar, InStyle, Vogue, Cosmopolitan – all objectify women like crazy.  And who are the editors and photographers in those magazines?  Women.

When a woman wants to go out to “Ladies’ Night,” even though she knows very few men will be there, she dresses to the nines.  She tells herself, “it’s about my confidence.”  Your confidence?  No, you’re objectifying yourself to be a nice thing to look at, even by other women.

Look at the explosion of the selfie.  And who are taking the most selfies?  Women, by far.  They make sure they get the camera angle right to include their cleavage and can spend hours in front of a mirror getting ready for the perfect shot.

Women objectify themselves instinctively.  They make themselves into an object for men, for other women, even for themselves.

Men don’t spend hours in front of a mirror trying to look “perfect,” or complain we have nothing to wear when we have a closet full of clothes, or want to be cat-called when we walk down the street.  But women sure do.  Despite how much women complain about that stuff, they need it.  They have to objectify themselves to feel validated.

In 2014, Feminist Jessica Valenti hated being cat-called as she walked down the street and criticized the patriarchy for cat-calling.  When it stopped, within 12 months, she lamented, “I hate that our culture makes me miss it” (Valenti, 2015).  Women want to be cat-called.  It reinforces their belief that they look good.  It strokes their ego.  It plays to their basal instincts that they’re a desirable object.  They’re not cat-calling your sparkling personality or university education, sweetheart.  They’re cat-calling a nice ass and pair of tits.

Objectification of women is natural for both men and women.  Anything less than raw objectification of women opposes nature itself.

And, if you haven’t noticed, nature is the biggest misogynist of all.


Objectification Of Women Is Natural, Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition). Copyright © August, 2018, Vintage In Stepford.  All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – When His Dominance Begins To Decline

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Yes, this issue is relatively taboo – and that’s exactly why it needs to be discussed.

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Your man’s dominance seems to be declining? His sex drive
seems to be down? It could be that he’s struggling emotionally.

Dominant men are intensely passionate – not just in the
bedroom. When we feel emotions, we feel them powerfully. Just because men don’t
express feelings with loud proclamations does not mean we don’t float on air
when we’re in love, or feel our chests burn with rage. We don’t show it, but – wow – we feel it.

It’s often a misconception that because dominant men are
naturally confident, that we don’t have moments of weakness. We do. Those
moments may be more infrequent than yours, but there can be times when we doubt
our own self-worth.

Men don’t easily volunteer feelings about it, but if you
find your man’s dominance is going downhill recently (often, but not always,
coupled with a decreased sex drive), it may be because he’s struggling
internally with his self-esteem.

This is the time when you need to step up. Dig to find the
cause of his spiraling self-worth and – when you find it – do everything you
feel you need to do to build it back up again. You’ll find you’re different
than your man – where you might get the blues for no particular reason, your
man is probably only pushed into a downward turn by a specific event or series
of events. It’s just a matter of talking to him to find the underlying issue.

Once you discover the specifics of what has caused his
recent downturn, reassure him of his excellence in that area. Talk about how
handsome he is. Tell him how valuable a contribution he makes at work and how
his work is appreciated, not only by those at his job, but by you especially. Remind
him of how he brings energy and vitality into your life and the lives of his
family members. Whatever the cause of his “blues,” be sure to confront his
misconceptions about himself head-on in a gentle, loving, supportive manner. It may take days or weeks, but keep at it.  Be
feminine, but don’t budge an inch from the concept that he is the greatest man
you’ve ever known.

Generally speaking, men don’t doubt themselves as often as
women, but no man is immune from periods of questioning his own self-worth. If
you’re there for him when he needs you most, you’ll see him return to the
confident, dominant man he used to be.

We’re your rock. We know that’s our duty, and it’s also our
pleasure and our honor. But when a rock starts to roll downhill, it only takes
one little stone to stop its fall.

Be that little stone.


When His Dominance Begins To Decline, Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition), June, 2018.  First published August 2017, Copyright © 2017 Vintage in Stepford.   Inspired by Alodia.  All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – When His Dominance Begins To Decline

Yes, this issue is relatively taboo – and that’s exactly why it needs to be discussed.

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Your man’s dominance seems to be declining? His sex drive
seems to be down? It could be that he’s struggling emotionally.

Dominant men are intensely passionate – not just in the
bedroom. When we feel emotions, we feel them powerfully. Just because men don’t
express feelings with loud proclamations does not mean we don’t float on air
when we’re in love, or feel our chests burn with rage. We don’t show it, but – wow – we feel it.

It’s often a misconception that because dominant men are
naturally confident, that we don’t have moments of weakness. We do. Those
moments may be more infrequent than yours, but there can be times when we doubt
our own self-worth.

Men don’t easily volunteer feelings about it, but if you
find your man’s dominance is going downhill recently (often, but not always,
coupled with a decreased sex drive), it may be because he’s struggling
internally with his self-esteem.

This is the time when you need to step up. Dig to find the
cause of his spiraling self-worth and – when you find it – do everything you
feel you need to do to build it back up again. You’ll find you’re different
than your man – where you might get the blues for no particular reason, your
man is probably only pushed into a downward turn by a specific event or series
of events. It’s just a matter of talking to him to find the underlying issue.

Once you discover the specifics of what has caused his
recent downturn, reassure him of his excellence in that area. Talk about how
handsome he is. Tell him how valuable a contribution he makes at work and how
his work is appreciated, not only by those at his job, but by you especially. Remind
him of how he brings energy and vitality into your life and the lives of his
family members. Whatever the cause of his “blues,” be sure to confront his
misconceptions about himself head-on in a gentle, loving, supportive manner. It may take days or weeks, but keep at it.  Be
feminine, but don’t budge an inch from the concept that he is the greatest man
you’ve ever known.

Generally speaking, men don’t doubt themselves as often as
women, but no man is immune from periods of questioning his own self-worth. If
you’re there for him when he needs you most, you’ll see him return to the
confident, dominant man he used to be.

We’re your rock. We know that’s our duty, and it’s also our
pleasure and our honor. But when a rock starts to roll downhill, it only takes
one little stone to stop its fall.

Be that little stone.


When His Dominance Begins To Decline, Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition), June, 2018.  First published August 2017, Copyright © 2017 Vintage in Stepford.   Inspired by Alodia.  All Rights Reserved.

Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition) – Being a Homemaker Requires Brains and Skills

You’ve Probably Been Told That Being a Homemaker is the
Worst Career Choice You Can Make – But Think Again

We live in a society that pressures young women to go into
fields like business and law.  Businesswomen
and lawyers spend $300 per month on lattes, $2,000 – $3,000 per month on
lunches, and a $500 for a vintage outfit, and $250 for maid service.  A good homemaker can provide delicious custom
lattes to herself and her husband for less than $30 per month, excellent
deli–quality lunches for less than $150 per month, can create a unique vintage
outfit for herself for under $50, and the only expense involved in keeping the
home clean is buying the cleaning products.

You see, being a homemaker is a great deal different than
what you’ve been taught; it’s not the
lazy, stupid route that feminists would have you believe.  As the Operations Manager of a home, the
homemaker must be sure to lower expenses of the home without sacrificing
quality (sounds like the job of a CEO if you think about it).  The extra money that the homemaker saves can
be spent by her husband on home improvements, buying her new appliances, improving
the garden, new pots and pans, Christmas, Birthdays, Valentine’s Day, even
vacations for the two of you.

It’s not as glamorous as being a businesswoman or
lawyer?  That depends on how glamorous
you make it.  Why can’t you go about your
homemaking duties dressed in heels and a vintage dress with pearls and full
makeup on?  

You don’t get as much recognition from your boss if you’re a
homemaker?  Nonsense.  As a homemaker, your boss gives you sex,
gifts, shoes, flowers, you name it.  If
that’s not recognition, tell me what is.

Learning to cook, clean, sew, and sexually pleasure your
husband are critical skills.  And while
some may come more naturally than others, these skills are essential to the
smooth and efficient operation of the home.

Here on Tumblr, we see a lot of “stay home and suck dick”
memes which is a great sexual fantasy, but it doesn’t do much to improve the
man’s financial standing in the world.  Your
husband can’t be considered successful if you are nothing more than a sexual
toy.  Just staying home and pleasuring
your husband is the job of a housewife – a homemaker’s job is much more
difficult.  Cooking, cleaning, sewing,
gardening, laundry, ironing, medicine, organization – these are critical skills
to the homemaker.

So the next time you’re told that “being a housewife is a
job for losers”, you can quietly giggle knowing that you’ll be dressed in
unique, stylish clothes, eating restaurant level food for every meal, enjoying
top–quality lattes, coffees, and teas, all while looking spectacular doing it.

Homemaker is a loser job?
No.  An hour long commute only to
spend half your day’s wages on clothes, coffee, and food is for losers.

You’re a winner.
That’s why you’re a homemaker.


Being a Homemaker Requires Brains and Skills.  Good Housekeeping (21st Century Edition).  Originally published October, 2017.  Edited and Republished March, 2018.  Copyright © 2017, 2018 Vintage In Stepford.  All Rights Reserved.