His Win-Win Final Decision

Yes, as a traditional girl, you should be deferring every single decision to your man. But if you want to be happy with his decision, you need to limit his options so that you’re both happy.

How would you limit his options?

Let’s say you’re going to the salon to get new nails.  They have a selection of 150 colors, but you want him to decide which color he wants you to have.  You could send him a picture of all 150 colors and let him choose, but if he chooses a color you don’t particularly like, you’re forced to obey, but deep inside, you may resent his decision a little.

So, what do you do?

Of the 150 colors, choose 10-15 that you really, really like.  Once you have them all collected so that they’ll fit into a single photograph, take a picture and send it to him.

No matter which one of the ten to fifteen colors he chooses, you’ll be content with his decision.

You can apply this same principle to anything – hair styles, hair colors, clothing, food, or drink.  If you limit his options to those you like then leave the final decision to him, a wonderful thing happens:

He gets to decide for you, and no matter what he chooses, you’re happy with his decision.

It’s win-win.

-VIS

Misogynist vs. Sexist

A misogynist believes that, because you’re a female, you need to be broken and kept in your place to make him happy.

A sexist believes that, because you’re a female, you’re inherently broken, and that with his support, guidance, boundaries, appreciation, and routine, you can be built up to make you happy.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – The Gillette Ad and the Attack on Traditional Masculinity

Here’s why Gillette is out of line.

Gillette recently released their newest ad campaign on “Toxic Masculinity,” inviting men to “be the best a man can get.”

Gillette has obviously bowed to the pressures of radical left wing feminism in their ad campaign, believing – for some reason – that men who use Gillette products are stupid enough to believe Feminist Theory.

The ad talks about bullying, sexual assault, and other things of which men are frequently (and often wrongly) accused.  But by adopting left wing attitudes toward masculinity, Gillette is essentially saying that all men are monsters and Traditional Masculinity is wrong.

But what Gillette doesn’t address is that men who sexually harass, or bully, or rape, or generally treat women like trash are a very, very small minority of the male population.  Generally speaking, men don’t act like that at all, so why is Gillette painting masculinity as some inherent evil?

Perhaps Gillette was listening to the American Psychological Association (APA)’s 2017 “Guidance Document” which states that the following characteristics need to be eliminated from all men:

  • Achievement
  • Risk
  • Adventure Focus
  • Eschewing Weakness
  • Aggression
  • Status
  • Competition
  • Stoicism

So, basically, the APA says that anything that is inherent in a man needs to be eliminated from men, kind of like how Joseph Mengele (who was also a doctor) wanted to breed out all the “bad” characteristics to achieve the perfect human.

Taking lessons from the Angel of Death, Gillette?  Very classy.

Now, before we try to cut the APA some slack for bowing to feminist pressure, let’s bear in mind that this is the organization who, as little as 32 years ago (1987), stated that being gay was a “serious mental disorder” that could be treated by pumping thousands of volts into your brain through electro-shock therapy.  So, you know, let’s take everything the APA says with a rather large grain of salt.

The problem is not too much masculinity in the world, it’s a lack of masculinity.  Men who rape or sexually assault or bully are not masculine at all.  That’s not what masculine men do.  Masculine men have self-control.  Masculine men feel the need to protect women, to provide for them, to defend their honor.  Masculine men defend women from weak-minded beta males who would rape, assault, and bully.

Gillette, like feminists, seems to have this all ass-backwards.  Women are greater bullies to other women.  Young girls are particularly vicious online.  Women are known to be gender traitors just to get a man to pay attention to them.

“Toxic Masculinity” is a problem, Gillette?  Perhaps.  But “toxic femininity” has an even greater problem.  Consider this:

  • 40% of reported domestic violence (reported – it’s believed to be much higher) is perpetrated by women. (Domestic Violence Statistics)
  • Women are much more likely to murder their own children. (JAAPL)
  • If you include “forced kissing” as sexual assault, women are responsible for 48% of all sexual assaults (TIME)

Women can be toxic, too, Gillette.  To say that men are the reason the world is going down the toilet is like trying to put out a forest fire with a boot.  If you really want to change the world, look at the root cause – Feminist Theory has concocted this story that men are the only ones who bully, who rape, who commit domestic violence, and who commit sexual assault.

Like most Feminist Theory, it’s a lie.  And I find it hard to believe that no one at Gillette fact-checked any of this.  No one looked up journal articles to refute the claims of the leftist board of directors.  No one held a focus group to ask if they know someone who bullies, harasses, or sexually assaults.  No, Gillette just went headlong into these waters with no compass, no map, and only the shining star of Feminist Theory to guide them.

Hate to tell you, Gillette, but that isn’t a guiding star.  It’s a meteorite plummeting to earth, kind of like your company’s business model.

And between you, me, and the lamppost, Gillette, this is the end of the relationship between you and many, many men.

In that spirit, I’ve sold my 1955 Gillette Super Speed Razor and dumped my Gillette 7 o’clock razor blades in the blue bin.  In their place, my Merkur 34C double edge safety razor and Derby Extra blades have been brought out of storage.  I’ll never buy another Gillette product again.

Shame on you, Gillette.

Shame.


The Gillette Ad and the Attack on Traditional Masculinity, The Gentleman’s Times.  Copyright © 2019 Vintage In Stepford, All Rights Reserved.

My new ebook is now available!

My new book, A Man Explained It To Me!: Everyday Topics Mansplained So Well That Even A Woman Can Understand Them by Mr. V. I. Stepford is now available on Amazon.  Below are links to various countries where you can purchase it:

USA

UK

Germany

France

Spain

Italy

The Netherlands

Japan

Brazil

Canada

Mexico

Australia

India

Price is $2.99 USD for Kindle edition.

-VIS

New Book To Be Released Soon!

Amazon is currently reviewing my new book,  A Man Explained It To Me!: Everyday Topics Mansplained So Well That Even A Woman Can Understand Them by Mr. V. I. Stepford, for publication.

I expect the book will be released by January 23, 2019, but I will certainly keep you all informed when the book goes live on Amazon.

It is only in Kindle format right now, but I should have the paperback version available within a week.

This will be the first in the Mansplaining Series by Mr. V. I. Stepford.

-VIS

Different Rules: The Office

Gentlemen:

“You screwed it up.  I can’t believe it.  Look, you had one job.  One job!  And you screwed it up!  This is going to take hours to fix.  Now I have to get Hodgkins to do this and he hates this job.  I’ll let it slide this time, but I’m warning you, man, you blow it like this again and you’re out the door!”

Girls:

“You messed it up?  Aww, honey, don’t worry about it.  You’re just a girl and it was a tough job.  Hodgkins wanted to do it anyway so I’ll let him do it.  You just stand there and look pretty and answer phones, ok?”

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – Carrot and Stick

Punishments aren’t working? Try rewards.

There’s an old phrase that is commonly used when speaking of punishments and rewards – “carrot and stick.”  If you hit a lamb with a stick, it will stop its bad behavior.  But if you dangle a carrot in front of the same lamb’s face, it will comply with your wishes.

Like lambs, some girls don’t respond well to the threat of punishment.  Some girls – particularly fragile, delicate, sensitive girls – respond better and will become more obedient when good behavior is rewarded instead of bad behavior being punished.

Take, for example, my girl, Christina.  She’s an extremely delicate and fragile girl with very high anxiety.  I discovered quickly that threats of punishment for bad behavior don’t work for her – all the threats did was serve to heighten her anxiety which resulted in even poorer behavior.  So, instead, I instituted a bedtime routine that involves plenty of rewards – things that make her feel safe and content – on the condition that her behavior that day is exemplary.  The better the behavior, the greater the rewards.

The transformation was incredible.  Christina works hard every day to ensure that her nighttime routine is going to be the most pleasant part of her day.  Best of all, she has almost no anxiety during the day.

Some girls respond well to punishment, some girls respond better to rewards.

If the stick isn’t working, try the carrot.


Carrot and Stick, The Gentleman’s Times, copyright © 2019, Vintage In Stepford, All Rights Reserved.