The girls tell me that our wedding vows will be the traditional “love, honour, and obey” vows, and that mine will be to “love, honour, and cherish.” I called the girls this evening and told them I want the “honour” changed to “respect”. They agreed that basically it meant the same thing and that if respect is the word I want, respect is the word I get.
So I will vow to love, honour, and cherish them, and they will vow to love, respect, and obey me.
Seems like a perfectly good set of vows.
-VIS
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It’s become the ‘done thing’ to change that part of the vows or forego it altogether in the UK. We decided to keep it though; I already loved my husband dearly, he’s my soul mate. I agree with you about honour and respect being the same thing, and I trust him implicitly, I know he will steer our family in the right way. Obeying him has only made me a stronger, more confident and happier version of myself. I appreciate not all men are so deserving of such blind trust these days, but in such a case, I probably wouldn’t marry those ones lol.
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Our weddings are going to be old-fashioned, so it only made sense that we keep some semblance of the traditional vows in there. At least then the girls could never say they didn’t vow to obey me when I give them a command they don’t like. lol
-VIS
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