Month: February 2022

Well, I went to see the Range Rover on Friday morning and took it to an independent mechanic to see how it was. It passed with flying colours.

So I’ve paid the man and I’m now the proud owner of a 2020 Range Rover.

The girls love the SUV and I love it too. There’s no doubt it can handle the terrain of getting to the cabin and has the capacity to help with the food bank too.

I’m really glad for this as my old car was an absolute piece of junk.

-VIS

My current car is a piece of junk and can’t handle the terrain of getting to the cabin, so I’ve decide to buy a used Range Rover. I never buy new, but a used one will do me just fine.

I’ve found a beautiful black one online and am going to see it tomorrow at 9am.

On top of that, the girls and I had a fantastic dinner at the Indian restaurant last night.

The new Range Rover should help to get all the donated food to the food bank.

-VIS

Monday. February 21st, is my birthday.

In honour of this occasion, I’ve decided to do 54 acts of kindness.

I won’t be reporting on what I’ve done, but I’m working hard to come up with 54 acts of random kindness.

The girls and I wanted to go out to dinner for my birthday, but it’s family day here in Ontario and all businesses will be closed. So the girls have decided to come over and cook me a good meal. Should be tasty!

Update: This morning, February 22, at 11am, I completed my list of 54 random acts of kindness.

-VIS

For Valentine’s Day, I sent the girls each a dozen long stem red roses to their homes. I’ve heard from all of them and they were incredibly thankful.

Tonight, we have reservations at a fine dining restaurant. I’ve looked at the menu ahead of time and know what I’m going to order for each of the girls (I always order for them). We’ll be enjoying a few bottles of wine with dinner, which is why I’ve reserved an Uber for dinner and after dinner.

This should be a spectacular evening if all goes well. The girls are staying at my place tonight, so hopefully it will be even more spectacular than I planned.

-VIS

“Benevolent sexism is a form of paternalistic prejudice (treating a lower status group as a father might treat a child) directed toward women. Prejudice is often thought of as a dislike or antipathy toward a group. Benevolent sexism, however, is an affectionate but patronizing attitude that treats women as needing men’s help, protection, and provision (i.e., as being more like children than adults). Benevolently sexist attitudes suggest that women are purer and nicer than men, but also mentally weaker and less capable. Behaviors that illustrate benevolent sexism include overhelping women (implying they cannot do something themselves), using diminutive names (e.g., “sweetie”) toward female strangers, or “talking down” to women (e.g., implying they cannot understand something technical).”

-from “Benevolent Sexism Definition” on Psychology.iresearch.com

Women are not inherently the same as men.

The vast majority of women are far more empathetic than men.  They have different hormones running through their bodies.  Women tend to feel things while men tend to do things.  Women make decisions based on what feels good, men tend to make decisions based on what does good.  

We are very different, men and women, and scientific study after scientific study has proven it.

If you’re a feminist who believes you’re essentially the same as a man, you’re fooling yourself and setting yourself up for a life of unhappiness.

Women who embrace their femininity, however, have been proven to be happier and more at peace with themselves and the world.

So if you choose to believe you’re just like men, that’s your decision.  But there are consequences to every decision – and statistics prove the consequence for believing you’re no different than men is probably a life of unhappiness.

Femininity – the proven path to female happiness.

-VIS

So your traditional girl is stressed to the max? Her anxiety is climbing, she’s having a difficult time dealing with everything going on in her life, and it seems like she may fall apart at any moment.

It’s your first instinct in such a situation to relax the rules and broaden her boundaries, but that would be a huge mistake. At times like that, your girl needs more restrictions to feel safe.

When her world starts spinning out of control, the only real safety net she knows is that the boundaries and rules you set upon her give her comfort.

For example, let’s say you’re talking to her while she’s in a stressful situation and you give her a piece of advice. She replies, “yeah.” Don’t let that go. Call her out on it.

“It’s not ‘yeah’, little girl,” you remind her. “It’s ‘yes Sir’.”

This is called protocol. How your girl addresses you and the formality with which she responds restricts her language and her thoughts.

When her thoughts are restricted, she can’t overthink. When she can’t overthink, she can’t get overwhelmed. And when she can’t get overwhelmed, it’s easier for her to face the task at hand.

To your girl in a difficult situation, more structure = less stress.

-VIS

Your traditional girl, despite all her talents, is not a mind reader. She really, really wants to be a good girl, but if you don’t tell her exactly what to do in order to hear those magic words, she feels lost.

Give her clear, concise instructions on what you want done and exactly how you want it done. Keep the instructions brief. She shouldn’t need to write it down, she should be able to keep your instructions in her memory.

Once you’ve given her the instructions, ask, “do you have any questions?”

You need to ask this so that she can clarify anything you may have omitted.

Help her be a good girl. Be specific.

-VIS

Why are we, in the Traditional Gender Role community, so incredibly happy relative to people who believe in equality of the sexes?

Matthew D. Hammond and Chris G. Sibley tried to answer this question in their 2011 study entitled Why are Benevolent Sexists Happier? available for free here.

The study really doesn’t come to a logical conclusion except to say that both men and women find that their lives are more naturally structured when they accept Benevolent Sexism as a way of life (note: I consider myself a Benevolent Sexist).

From the study’s abstract on page 332:

“Research indicates that the endorsement of sexist ideology is linked to higher subjective wellbeing for both men and women.”

This is a particularly large study (n = 6,100) and, as we all know, the larger the study, the more accurate it is likely to be.

So gentlemen, get your big boy pants on. Women find you more attractive when you’re just a little bit sexist.

-VIS

Oh sure, on some stuff, men value your opinion. Would the kitchen look better in red or black/white? Does this tie or this tie look better? What kind of Christmas tree should we get this year?

But let’s face it, when you start talking about important issues – politics, business, finance – we tune out.

It’s not that you’re not worth listening to, it’s that 99% of the time, your opinions show that you’re ill-informed, or that you haven’t matured enough to consider all factors involved.

So what should you do instead of spouting off opinions?

Smile, be pretty, and get back in the kitchen.

We’ll call you when we need you.

-VIS