Missing Willow

I’m happy and content with Danielle, but recently my mind has been drifting back to Willow and how much I miss her.

Willow was the only girl who really got me. She made some profound statements about me in the time we were together – statements that were facts I couldn’t deny. She was intelligent, insightful, and a damned hard worker. We never once argued. Not once in a year and a half. Circumstances beyond our control forced us apart. It wasn’t our choice.

I won’t even let Danielle call me Daddy because that was Willow’s name for me.

Oh well. There’s no sense crying over spilt milk, but if you’re reading this, Willow, just know I miss you terribly.


I’m back and Danielle

I’m back from the cabin. I managed to cut 6 cord of wood while I was there, so I now have a full winter’s supply of wood for heat.

I got back to find Danielle had spent the entire week at my place without going back to her house. I asked her how she felt about it and she said she enjoyed being alone and relaxing in my home.

I asked her if there were any problems while I was gone and she said she had been thinking (which I know is an automatic problem). She said that she was sad that Amanda had ended the trio but she was happy we were still together. I didn’t ask her why she was sad about Amanda, she is usually pretty up front and will tell me her thoughts.

I spent a lot of time in front of the fire on my week away. Sitting in front of the fire gives me time to think and contemplate. I’ve decided I’m happy with Danielle and won’t try to bring Amanda back into the trio.

She straightened her hair while I was away, and her hair now comes down to her ass, which is fantastic. I have always loved Danielle’s hair and now that it’s straight and long, I love it even more.


If you get her pregnant, marry her.

It’s time I said this: if you get a girl pregnant, marry her.

Don’t be a d*** and leave your girl and children behind to fend for themselves. Man up, for God’s sake, and take care of your family.

Don’t use excuses like “I’m not ready for a family.” You were man enough to have sex without protection, so you’re man enough to provide for those who count on you.

Be a man and look after them. Stop being such a piss poor excuse for a human being.

Man up.



On Friday, I’ll be going away for a week to the cabin to fell trees and cut some wood for the winter.

Danielle will not be coming with me (she has to work), so I’ll be alone for a week.

I haven’t spent time alone at the cabin since the girls and I first got together. It should be wonderful because the cabin is a place of solitude and thinking for me.

If I don’t post about it on Friday, see you in a week and a half.


What Killed Feminism?

Let’s face it: feminism is dead.  Oh sure, there are a few anachronists on the fringes of society who still hold on to their pink banners hoping for a return to the glory days of the movement, but for the most part, we live in a post-feminist world.  Feminism as a movement was struggling in the middle of the last decade and, like a building that has outlived its usefulness, it imploded and collapsed under its own weight.

What happened?

Firstly, of course, all of feminism’s goals were achieved.  The right to work with equal pay, the right to be treated as equals to men, the right to sexual autonomy – all of these things were enshrined in law or, at the very least, in the public consciousness.  Even with all its goals completed, however, feminists felt the world still needed them and, like the building mentioned above, feminism simply outlived its usefulness in modern society.

One of the fatal flaws of recent feminism was the denial of basic, scientifically-proven truths.  Feminists insisted that women were being paid only 77% of what men were being paid for doing the exact same job.  However, economists quickly pointed out that if this were true, corporations would hire only women.  “Gender is a social construct” was another rallying cry of feminism, but the majority of the West understood that gender is not fluid and is not a social construct, but is based in anatomy and biology.  These denials of what the majority knew to be true undermined feminism’s credibility in Western society and, in turn, weakened the foundations of the movement.

Feminism took on goals that were too lofty and expected them to be accepted by the public in very short order – something the general public was unwilling to do.  Expanding on the “gender is a social construct” idea, feminism forwarded the idea that people who were born as biological men could participate in women’s athletics and win fairly.  This did not sit well with the majority of the Western population and the feminist agenda was further diluted.

In fairness, not all feminists were so willing to accept transgenderism as a part of the feminist cause.  TERF’s, or Trans-Exclusive Radical Feminists, rallied against the inclusion of transgender individuals in the feminist movement reasoning that a biological man had no real idea of the obstacles women faced.  This saw the start of a tremendous amount of infighting within the feminist movement and the trans-exclusive and trans-inclusive crowds turned on each other like rabid wolves ultimately weakening the structure and integrity of feminism.

But perhaps two of feminism’s greatest failings were its embrace of victimhood and its lack of self-awareness.

When feminism began, the movement was about women not being treated as children, but rather being treated as equals who were strong and mature enough to carve their own destinies.  Over time, feminism became a sort-of “oppression Olympics” and points were tallied depending on how oppressed an individual was in modern society.  Victimhood became the name of the game in feminism and instead of standing strong and maturely against life’s challenges as equal partners would do, feminists began to behave more like children comparing their personal traumas instead of trying to empower themselves.  This was the implosion of feminism.

But feminism also lost its sense of self-awareness and began wearing blinders.  The movement was supposed to be about gender equality.  In the end, it was mostly about misandry and ignoring all injustices that were not committed against females.  This huge imbalance and hypocritical stance caused the final collapse of feminism.

I have often wondered if feminists merely seek someone to “put them in their place” as it were – someone to hold them accountable, someone to call them out on their nonsensical behavior.  After all, this would explain feminism’s preoccupation with patriarchal systems like Islam that oppress women.  The more research I have done into the Men First and Inequality movements, the more I have explored Traditional Gender Roles and Benevolent Sexism, the more I have talked to former feminists who have left the cult of feminism to take their rightful place in the kitchen, the more I realize my hypothesis was most likely correct – most feminists don’t believe that which they espouse.  Most of them had absent or permissive fathers and simply want to be held accountable for the first time in their lives.  For many young women, feminism was little more than a facade that echoed their anger toward their own fathers.

Ultimately, that is probably what caused the collapse of feminism — for most feminists, the entirety of feminist theory is a good way to explain their own anger toward the men in their own lives and to express their hope of finding someone who will hold them accountable in their day to day actions.  The facade was bound to fall eventually and while infighting and hypocrisy ripped feminism apart from within, public opinion turned against the movement until it could stand no longer.


Why We All Need Masculine Men

Feminized and passive men don’t solve problems. There are men in this world committing rape, murder, and all kinds of wickedness. When a man is feminized, he become passive and won’t stop those who are doing evil things. Feminized men are passive men, and passive men don’t draw lines in the sand, passive men won’t stand up for principles, passive men won’t protect, provide, and defend those who need it most.

But masculine men will stop evil men from committing evil. The same traits that supposedly make men “toxic” – warmongering, colonialism, and greediness – also make men courageous enough to stop evil men from doing evil things.

As Allie Stuckey once said, “we don’t need less masculinity, we need better masculinity.” This world doesn’t need feminized, passive men. This world needs better men, braver men. It needs good men who will stand up against men of evil intent and declare, “this is the line in the sand. and you will go no further.

We don’t need less masculinity. We need more.


Literally Objectify Her

You’re relaxing with the newspaper and she asks, “is there anything I can get you?

You grin and reply, “a footstool would be great.

She moves to retrieve the footrest and you correct her. “No, no, honey. You’re my footrest today.

Order her to get down on her hands and knees and stay perfectly still while you put your feet up and continue to read.

Maybe it’ll take you an hour to finish the paper. Maybe it’ll take longer. That’s okay. You’re comfortable and that’s all that matters.

And what about her?

Don’t worry about her. She’s just a girl.