When you give her an instruction, don’t be overly polite. Don’t say:
“Would you please hand me that book?”
“Could you please get me a coffee?”
“Would you mind handing that newspaper to me?”
See, in your girl’s mind, those are decisions to be made. “Would I please?” “Could I?” “Would I mind?”
Decisions like these complicate her world and the last thing she needs is more complications in her life.
At the same time, manners are important and by using them, you’re setting the politeness bar for her.
Instead of the above, try:
“Please hand me that book.”
“Get me a coffee, please.”
“Hand that news paper to me, doll.”
See? Much simpler. No decisions to be made, no thinking involved. Easy, concise instructions make her head clearer and her heart lighter.
So, when you give her an instruction, don’t leave anything to chance. A short, memorable command – not request – is what she needs to hear.
And she’ll obey without question.