Going Away for a Week!

I’ve spoken to Danielle and Amanda and we’ve decided to take off for the cabin on my birthday (Sunday, February 21st) and to return on February 28th.

They say they have a birthday surprise for me once we get to the cabin, so I’m excited about that.

I’ll be posting again before I leave, but once I’m gone, have a great week!

-VIS

Literally Objectify Her

You’re relaxing with the newspaper and she asks, “is there anything I can get you?

You grin and reply, “a footstool would be great.

She moves to retrieve the footrest and you correct her.  “No, no, honey.  You’re my footrest today.

Order her to get down on her hands and knees and stay perfectly still while you put your feet up on her back and continue to read.

Maybe it’ll take you an hour to finish the paper.  Maybe it’ll take longer.  That’s okay.  You’re comfortable and that’s all that matters.

And what about her?

Don’t worry about her.  She’s just a girl.

-VIS

Give Her Commands, Not Requests

When you give her an instruction, don’t be overly polite.

Don’t say:

Would you please hand me that book?

Could you please get me a coffee?

Would you mind handing that newspaper to me?

See, in your girl’s mind, those are decisions to be made.  “Would I please?” “Could I?”  “Would I mind?

Decisions like these complicate her world and the last thing she needs is more complications in her life.

At the same time, manners are important and by using them, you’re setting the politeness bar for her.

Instead of the above, try:

Please hand me that book.

Get me a coffee, please.

Hand that news paper to me, doll.

See?  Much simpler.  No decisions to be made, no thinking involved.  Easy, concise instructions make her head clearer and her heart lighter.

So when you give her an instruction, don’t leave anything to chance.  A short, memorable command – not request – is what she needs to hear.

And she’ll obey without question.

-VIS

Talk With Your Body

Let’s face it, traditional girls – you’re not too bright.  So why try to impress us with your brains when all we really care about is your body?

When a man is speaking to you, remember:

– Don’t speak very much or at all

– Play with your hair

– Touch him when you giggle

– If you must speak, use delicate hand gestures

– Bite your lip

– Laugh and smile!

Using your body language will tell a man that you know his words are far more important than yours.

After all, you want him to look at your body, so why not let it speak for you?

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures

Think she’s complicated?  Think again.

Most men think that women are complex creatures.  They complain about women over-analyzing, running amok, and being too demanding.

But in fact, the opposite is true.  All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they form an acronym: Boundaries, Appreciation, and Routine – or BAR.

If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before you put her back in her place. Boundaries also include accountability for her actions.  These Boundaries give her a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.

Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut, to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is at its best. Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.

She requires Routine which includes consistency.  If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t have time to over-think.  If she doesn’t have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her life, and that’s liberating for her.

Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure these 3 things are still in place.  It’s not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s actually a compliment.  She treats these little tests like a “ping” signal.  She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again.  Don’t cower from the test, delight in it.  She’s pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”

All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains.  Give her that freedom.

Set the BAR for her.


Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures – The BAR System, The Gentleman’s Times, Copyright 2018-2021 Vintage In Stepford.  All Rights Reserved.