Yes, this issue is relatively taboo – and that’s exactly why it needs to be discussed.
Your man’s dominance seems to be declining? His sex drive seems to be down? It could be that he’s struggling emotionally.
Dominant men are intensely passionate – not just in the bedroom. When we feel emotions, we feel them powerfully. Just because men don’t express feelings with loud proclamations does not mean we don’t float on air when we’re in love, or feel our chests burn with rage. We don’t show it, but – wow – we feel it.
It’s often a misconception that because dominant men are naturally confident, that we don’t have moments of weakness. We do. Those moments may be more infrequent than yours, but there can be times when we doubt our own self-worth.
Men don’t easily volunteer feelings about it, but if you find your man’s dominance is going downhill recently (often, but not always, coupled with a decreased sex drive), it may be because he’s struggling internally with his self-esteem.
This is the time when you need to step up. Dig to find the cause of his spiraling self-worth and – when you find it – do everything you feel you need to do to build it back up again. You’ll find you’re different than your man – where you might get the blues for no particular reason, your
man is probably only pushed into a downward turn by a specific event or series of events. It’s just a matter of talking to him to find the underlying issue.
Once you discover the specifics of what has caused his recent downturn, reassure him of his excellence in that area. Talk about how handsome he is. Tell him how valuable a contribution he makes at work and how his work is appreciated, not only by those at his job, but by you especially. Remind him of how he brings energy and vitality into your life and the lives of his
family members. Whatever the cause of his “blues,” be sure to confront his misconceptions about himself head-on in a gentle, loving, supportive manner. It may take days or weeks, but keep at it. Be feminine, but don’t budge an inch from the concept that he is the greatest man you’ve ever known.
Generally speaking, men don’t doubt themselves as often as women, but no man is immune from periods of questioning his own self-worth. If you’re there for him when he needs you most, you’ll see him return to the confident, dominant man he used to be.
We’re your rock. We know that’s our duty, and it’s also our pleasure and our honor. But when a rock starts to roll downhill, it only takes one little stone to stop its fall.
Be that little stone.