There’s an Arabic saying:
خير الأمور أوسطها
It means “good things are in the middle.” Extremism of any kind doesn’t work.
Take, for example, feminism. While equality may seem like a good idea on paper, it’s not human nature. For all of human history, women have been the support system for men while the men provided, protected, and cherished. And when you consider intersectional feminism, a philosophy by which all White men are guilty of a crime they never committed, that’s extremism that doesn’t work.
But take a look at the other side of the coin. Misogyny doesn’t work. Oh sure, misogyny is fun for a sexual thrill, but it doesn’t make for a working relationship. No man worth his salt is going to pay $20,000 for a girl’s plastic surgery only to have her stay home and lie in bed as a fucktoy while contributing nothing to the household. Sex takes up maybe 1/6th of your day – ¼ of your day if your sex drive is incredibly high. But what do you do for the other 8, 10, 20 hours of the day? You have to have a working dynamic, and a misogyny dynamic just doesn’t work in the long run.
This is where the Men First movement comes in. Sure, Men First advocates that the man’s pleasure comes first, that a man’s decision is better than the decision of a silly girl, and that a man speaks while the girl is silent, but it also means that the man holds doors open for his girl (thereby allowing the girl to go first), the man goes downstairs first when there’s a noise in the house at 2am, and when his girl is getting anxious, the man immediately stops what he’s doing to calm her down and reassure her that everything is fine.
Men First is the middle ground between feminism and misogyny.
And good things are in the middle.