Questioning His Decisions

NEVER question his decisions in public.

It’s fine to ask him politely about a decision he has made when you’re in a private setting, but never do it outside the home or in the company of others.

To do so is the height of bad manners and is ultimately destructive to your relationship.


A Glitch in the Matrix

What is driving the return to Traditional Gender Role relationships?  

It’s counter-cultural.  People are awakening to a new possibility – that the postmodernist cultural norms are unfulfilling and that in order to feel that we have worth in the midst of this hell we call ‘life’, we must find purpose for ourselves.  For men, that purpose is a natural inclination to lead, guide, teach, and to take responsibility.  For women, that purpose is a natural inclination to nurture, to care for others, and to empathize with those whom they love and – in the best cases – even with those whom they hate.  

Postmodernism left us with the belief that rights are all that matters.  The post-postmodernist, post-feminist counter-culture is realizing a singular truth: if we do not recognize that we each have natural inclinations that must be heeded, our lives are meaningless – and often unhappy.

There is a balance that can be struck.  You can believe in endless possibilities and unlimited potential for every individual.  At the same time, we must realize that each individual sees their unlimited potential as something different.  For one person, unlimited potential may be building a business from scratch into a Fortune 500 company.  For another, it may be working long nights as a scientist in a laboratory trying to discover the cure for a fatal disease.  For another, unlimited potential may mean staying at home with children, serving the God of their choice, and serving their spouse.  The new counter-culture recognizes that all of these potentials are valid and that if one is to give their own lives meaning, they must pursue their personal vision of their own “unlimited potential.”

What is most interesting about the post-postmodernist, post-feminist counter-culture is that it is based not on new rights and responsibilities or even new means of interpreting the correlations between the two.  No, the new counter-culture merely takes old ideas and breathes new life into them through the lens of instincts and natural proclivities – just as human beings have done for thousands of years.

A wise man once said, “what has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; and there is nothing new under the sun.”  That is essentially what we are seeing in the counter-culture revolution of today.