A little story …
Six months into my relationship with Willow, I asked her if she felt I was her boyfriend. She replied, “no. You’re not my boyfriend. I’m owned. You own me.”
Willow wasn’t saying that to be dramatic. She honestly feels that the idea of being boyfriend and girlfriend is upsetting, but she feels comfort in knowing that she’s owned.
How have I managed to do that?
It’s certainly not by telling her every day that she’s owned. I’ve never done that. What I have done is talk down to her every day, made her feel inferior, and I’ve let her know that although I treasure her, she is not my equal.
Be sure she knows she is owned, gentlemen. When she does, she will feel safer and happier.