Need more examples of nice vs kind. Want to learn whether I’m still making this mistake. I struggle with this sometimes. Am a softie deep in my soul.
It’s kindness when you tuck her into bed. That’s a good thing.
It’s niceness when you tell her she can stay up past bedtime. That’s a bad thing.
It’s kindness when you choose her clothes for the next day and lay them out for her. That’s a good thing.
It’s niceness when you say, “oh, you can decide what to wear today.” That’s a horrific thing.
It’s kindness when you choose the restaurant and tell her to put down her menu because you’ll order for her. That’s a great thing.
It’s niceness when you ask her where she wants to eat, then tell her to get “anything you want.” That is the worst thing you can do to your relationship.
If ever she tells you “you know, you’re a really nice guy,” it’s NOT a compliment. It’s a warning to get some spine or she’s ready to walk out the door.